Ep: 006 Surviving the Holidays
The holidays are here and sometimes for us as Muslims this can be a time of struggle. Don't even sweat it girls, we got you! In this episode we share 5 tips to survive "The Holidays" and create balance for your family whether they are also Muslim, or not.
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Survival Tip #1: Establish love and confidence in the holidays that you have!
Our holidays our super special and what we think is important here, especially when raising Muslim families, is that you make the BEST out of these holidays. You want to develop this culture in your home of pride in our faith. So that our kids can feel super proud of who they are and can feel that you are happy to be a Muslim! We feel the biggest mistake you can make is to not make a big deal out of the holidays we do have.
“Part of being happy about something is that you celebrate it!”
Survival Tip #2: Look at the holidays in the states lightly!
There is no need to take it so seriously and be offended by it. We love to raid after-holiday clearance sales and stock up on wrapping paper and ambiguous décor! Yes, girl!
Survival Tip #3: Do what works for your family!
Not everyone celebrates the same way or are in the same place as you are.
If you come up to a holiday that as a Muslim you really don’t feel like you want to take part of (and everyone is in a different place here) you’ll need to realize that it’s really hard for you to not take part of these non-Muslim holidays with your kids if you don’t make a big deal of the holiday you have! It’s almost impossible to get them on board with you and get them to feel like it’s no big deal if you didn’t make a big deal of EID! Because then you’re not doing anything, ever.
Monica and Nicole have young kids and so probably right now they aren’t as excited to fast and pray yet. So we feel like our job is to make the love grow in their heart and just make Ramadan truly exciting and fun! And then as they get older-- maintain the excitement and slowly start adding in the religious values in it because the love is established
Survival Tip #4: Be proud to be Muslim and who you are! Don’t let the holidays effect you in a negative way.
Convert confession: We still tune into Christmas Carols on the radio when were in the car by ourselves! And we are still here as proud Muslims women! Alhamdulilah!
Survival Tip #5: Whatever your family and friends celebrate be respectful towards them so they can be respectful for you to.
Share your holiday with them and let them share with you.
Nicole and Monica choose to be Muslim so when the holidays first came around it was quite depressing time as new Muslims. Nicole and Monica grew up where it was a warm and glowing time of year. Some of the biggest traditions and memories from childhood come from the holiday season. So there is no way to turn that off instantly. It is going to take some time to wean yourself of this. It’s not just a holiday to you, it’s part of your childhood and therefore part of your life! And so, new Muslims you should gravitate towards the two EIDs we have and when Christmas comes around you should definitely not shut off. You should still go and be with family. Because you are a confident Muslim woman. Because going over to someone’s house and sharing their holiday with them does not make you not Muslim anymore. And you can definitely share your holiday with them. Monica shares how she gives goes to her family house to give them EID gifts every year.